How to master a new skill

I find myself gravitating towards short articles like these, thanks to my new-found appetite for learning new things (and self development in general). I have some ambitious goals such as regular blogging, learning advanced swimming and meditation in my list for the next 18 months. Inadvertently, badminton has sneaked in as well. But perhaps the most important skill to learn is learning itself. It’s the “highest-order-bit” of self development.I have noticed that successful, accomplished and happy people are more than just skilled/talented or hard working people. Perhaps the most common trait shared by such people is their ability to learn. They have an approach to whatever it is that they do….whether it is in being mindful about what it is that they want to learn/develop, how they go about it, the way they set goals, the way they development the navigational intelligence up-front so they can see where they stand relative to their goals and such. Clearly, a simple recipe for learning is very hard to put together but this article makes an effort. I think it is a very good read as one draws closer to the en of the year and is beginning to think of finalizing one’s vision/goals for the following year.

– Sachin Desai

http://blogs.hbr.org/hmu/2012/11/how-to-master-a-new-skill.html

Practical advice on Authentic Leadership & Employee Connect

http://techcrunch.com/2012/12/01/the-path-to-a-culture-of-success-is-paved-with-authentic-leadership/

Summary (practical advice on how to practice authentic leadership):
– Develop greater self-awareness
– Talk about failures
– Show up to socialize
– Embrace “professional intimacy”
– Nix multi-task listening
– Loosen up
– Get good at speaking
– Embrace different views
– Excerpt from Jack Welch’s Winning:

A person cannot make hard decisions, hold unpopular positions, or stand tall for what he believes unless he knows who he is and feels comfortable in his own skin. I am talking about self-confidence and conviction. These traits make a leader bold and decisive, which is absolutely critical in times where you must act quickly, often without complete information. Just as important, authenticity makes a leader likeable, for lack of a better word. Their realness comes across in the way they communicate and reach people on an emotional level. Their words move them; their message touches something inside. When I was at GE, we would occasionally encounter a very successful executive who just could not be promoted to the next level. In the early days, we would struggle with our reasoning. The person demonstrated the right values and made the numbers, but usually his people did not connect with him. What was wrong? Finally, we figured out that these people always had a certain phoniness about them. They pretended to be something they were not ­­­— more in control, more upbeat, more savvy than they really were. They didn’t sweat. They didn’t cry. They squirmed in their own skin, playing a role of their own inventing. A leader in times of crisis can’t have an iota of fakeness in him. He has to know himself­­ ­— and like himself ­­­— so that he can be straight with the world, energize followers, and lead with the authority born of authenticity.

The Rise of the Compassionate Leader: Should You Be Cruel to Be Kind?

Worthwhile read….. Some highlights: – Out of all of the various elements in a business, the ability of a leader to be compassionate – that is, “to understand people’s motivators, hopes and difficulties and to create the right support mechanism to allow people to be as good as they can be” – has the greatest correlation with profitability and productivity – It’s about valuing people and being receptive and responsive to criticism – In everyday life, people typically confuse compassion with kindness. Sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind

http://knowledge.asb.unsw.edu.au/article.cfm?articleid=1671

Key Take-aways from "Simpilify" – Book on minimalism

Key Takeaways from “Simplify” book of minimalism

(Borrowed from a fiend’s post. Thanks @mukundmohan)
Lately, I’ve been reading Joshua Becker’s book Simplify about minimalist lifestyle. It’s a very short book, but hey, it has to be, this is minimalism!

This is an inspiring book about removing clutter and stuff you don’t actually need from your life and enjoy your life –not the things. Here are my key takeaways from the book:

Which you hold, holds you. Things you own actually begin to own you after some time. You clean them, organize them, buy them, sell them etc. More you own, the more time they rob from your lives.
“There are things more you should value more than possessions –God, family, relationships, character etc.”
Give things away or sell them if you are not really using. You won’t lose that much.
Spend money on life experiences than possessions.
You can’t just adopt every rule of minimalism, you’d rather create your own environment with less clutter.
Remove unused stuff from your living areas.
At the end of your life, you won’t care about how many hours you worked, you’ll just care about the time you spend with family and friends. You won’t care about your money but the difference you have made, the lives you changed and legacy you have left.
Prepare wish lists and send them people who might buy you a birthday present.
Watch much less TV, subscribe less channels.
Keep no mail in your email inbox; archive or delete them. (Bonus: How I keep my inbox 0 unread every day)
Be honest, lying is complicated. Truth simplifies things.
We were never meant to live a life of collecting stuff. We were meant to live simply enjoying experiences of life, people and the journey of life– not the things of life.
I came across this book from Roey Brecher’s post How I Simplified My Life, which I found influencing.

http://ahmetalpbalkan.com/blog/key-takeaways-from-simplify-book-of-minimalism/

7 Habits of highly effective losers (borrowed from sports)

7 Habits of Highly Effective Losers – very nice article discussing how to “lose well”…..includes managing the loss as well as learning from it.

The context of the article is sport (cricket) but it has applicability in other spheres as well.

1. Feel
2. Accept
3. Get perspective
4. Support others
5. Reflect on your preparation
6. Reflect on the performance
7. Commit to action

http://paddyupton.com/newsletter/the-seven-habits-of-highly-successful-losers/

Why our thinking about mentoring may all be wrong

The article is focused on entrepreneurship but the spirit of this article applies to other aspects of coaching too…..and if you are willing to stretch and extrapolate a bit, applicable to parenting as well.

Top-level tips:
Connect those who know with those who do
Think globally, but enhance indirect mentorship locally
Recognize the value of peer relationships
Personalize pairings, measure outcomes, and increase access
Start early
http://management.fortune.cnn.com/2012/09/25/mentors-entrepreneurship/